Personal development

Corporate Attire And Office Wear For A Career Woman- What’s Acceptable and What’s Not?

I was recently shocked  by a revelation from Nicola Thorp, a 27-year old temp worker who was ordered to go home without pay for not wearing high-heeled shoes.

Although her case gained global attention and a larger public opinion seemed to agree, her story als0 raised legal concerns across borders as to whether or not, a business can legally force it’s female employees to wear high heels? Nicola’s story has also raised questions among those working in an office environment where high heels are often the norm, especially where business attire is required.

The truth is, questions over dress code are nothing new. We’ve heard horrible stories about men and women facing discrimination because of their looks and attire. Some have been fired for being ‘too beautiful’ or ‘too sexy’. For example-

-Remember Debrahlee Lorenzana?  The lady who made headlines in 2010 when she claimed that she was forced out her Manhattan Citibank job because she was too “sexy”?  Village voice covered that story in details.

Well,  stuff happened  and she sued the bank for wrongful termination, and  as you might think, the ending was not so rosy!  Seemed like that case was too hot for a settlement.

According to Dealbreaker, “…  Citibank did not enter into any kind of a settlement with Ms. Lorenzana or provide any payment to her.”

And may i add, from her photos, she rocked those high heels at the work place!

-Remember Melissa Nelson’s story too?  The Iowa woman who was fired for being too ‘attractive’?  Or Dilek Edwards who was fired for being too cute?

And that’s not all!

-Did you hear that story about  Larycia Hawkins, a christian professor at Wheaton college, who was put on leave for wearing hijab? 

It gets crazier!

-Another story according to BBC,  is about a West African woman who works in a consultancy firm in London, who claims that her boss tells her to wear a weave to work because her natural ‘Afro hair is unprofessional’!

Such stories leave me in amazement! These are the kind of stories that catch both business and cultural attention. The idea of companies telling their employees what to wear, and firing them for not adhering to their rules, still puzzles many.

Of course what works for one organisation or department  may not necessarily  work for the others elsewhere in the world. But such cases or similar are likely create pitfalls for both employees and their employers and if not dealt with propely, they could fuel  more gender, race, cultural and religious discrimination.

 

 

“You Used To Call Me On My Cellphone”- Guilty About Losing Your Friends? Here’s Why You Need To Focus On Your ‘Growth Friends’

If you’ve listened to Hotline bling, then you must have heard Drake singing the first lines you used to call me from my cellphone. The lyrics are quite straightforward and for this sensitive topic, i thought i’d borrow that first line too.

Recently, i ran into an old friend of mine from college. She was not just anyone. She was my best friend! Our little meeting didn’t even last for more than 5 mins because we were both in a hurry. But i couldn’t help notice how much we both changed!  7 years ago, we were inseparable! The long talks, long walks along the sea, the parties…etc. But when we met again after such a long time, there was this distance which made us  feel  like we were strangers.  Honestly, it felt awkward!

What changed?

Well, life happens! We both made decisions, opened new chapters in our lives and  became extremely  busy with our careers and personal lives. And somewhere down the road, we drifted apart and  we lost our “friendship” connection. I must admit that even though i made new friends who i love very much (and i guess she too), i realised that getting over friends from the past is also not easy.

Maybe that is what they call ‘growing up’? So i hear. I don’t know. You tell me?

To me, friends are very important. I can’t imagine how some people cope without friends.

“No man is an island “

Studies show the importance of friendship-based relationships because it fosters moral goodness in people.  Friendships are vital for our overall mental well being and happiness. And in your career or personal life, it’s important to know who you keep in your life as friend.

But how important are past friends to you?  Do you feel bad for letting some of them go?

If you have guilty feelings about letting go off friendships, then this video by leading motivational expert, Brendon Buchard will inspire you. He talks about 3 kinds of friends (old, maintenance and growth) and he explains the importance of “Growth Friends” in our lives. Just pay attention to details.